So one of my New Years resolutions this year needs some help. It's more turning in to a February resolution... I want to get Leighton to sleep in her crib!! (Possibly through the night?) Yes, she has been sleeping in our bed for the last four months, and it needs to stop! Have I already ruined our chances? With all of our moving around and traveling it just became a habit. I actually found it really convenient to have her by me all through the night... for awhile. Now our "co-sleeping" arrangement isn't so helpful. If we go anywhere that has a smaller bed Davis ends up sleeping on the couch because he doesn't want to wake her up/ roll on her.
I know there are some strong oppinions about the pros and cons of co-sleeping, but now I would like to undo it. ANY suggestions would be appreciated! Routines, tricks, bribes, sleeping pills :), ect... I feel like I spent all this time finding the 'perfect' crib and the cutest bedding; shouldn't I get to use them?!
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Okay, we had this problem too. Nathan got sick at two months and we pulled him in with us and about a month a go we finally made the transition back. Here is what we did. We put him down around 7:00 or 7:30. Then I go in and get him around 10 or so and give him another bottle. I want him good and full when I go to bed. He never really fully wakes up for this feeding and he usually won't eat his regular 6-7 oz. It is usually more like 4 oz. Then for a while I would have to go in like twice a night and either rock him back to sleep or give him his binkie. Now, I don't have to go in until like five am or sometimes he has night terrors and I have to rock him back to sleep. But, it isn't on a regular basis. I do bring him into bed with us every once in a while, but it isn't until after 5 am. At 5 he is hungry enough that sometimes he won't stay in his crib, but if I bring him in with us he'll last until around 6:30 or 7:00. Depending on how Leighton is it might be worth getting up and feeding her and she might go back down for another 3-4 hours, but Nathan won't. He's a morning boy and once he's up HE'S UP for a while. Anyways, I hope that helps. It will just take you getting up a couple times a night for a while.
P.S. Sorry for the novel.
I did this with Kooper. I read Baby wise and my whole life changed!! ha ha I LOVE that book. The biggest thing is just to let them cry it out. It's amazing what that does. I just fed him right before bed time and put him to bed. If he wanted to cry he did and then he'd go to sleep. After a couple of nights he was sleeping through. It's been great ever since. I just did it with Livi and she was good quickly.
I feel your pain! We had such a struggle with Paisley's sleeping patterns. One bit of advise I would give is once you start putting her in her crib don't cave in the middle of the night and bring her back to your bed. I was so proud of myself for getting Paisley to sleep in her crib (even though it wasn't all through the night). But after a while I just got lazy. So when she would wake up in the night I would make lorin go get her and she would fall asleep in our bed while I fed her. Then when she would wake up a couple hours or so later I would feed her in the bed because I was too tired to get up with her.....you get the picture? Then when I finally decided to make her sleep in the crib through the night she wouldn't let me lay her back down in the crib because she wanted to lay next to us in bed. But I'm telling you ....when you are ready to help her sleep through the night give me a call. It sounds harsh to have them cry it out but it isn't as bad as you image. Pais ony cried for about 1-15 minutes. Worth it! Good luck! Sorry for another novel.
Here's the deal. I feel for you and it is nice to cuddle with your baby, but so is cuddling with your hubby. Sorry little Leighton, you get the boot. It really stinks (coming from a mommy who was up nursing her 10 month old Reese 2 times a night) but you just have to let them cry it out. You will be surprised but in a couple of nights, of a very strick rutine, she will be used to it. Just get into a rutine, and it will work.
I just got a moment to check out your blog!! What an adorable baby!! She is just a tiny little thing!! I thought my little guy was tiny at 4lbs! She is so precious!! Anyway, I am with everyone else on the sleeping thing. They really just have to learn that you aren't going to cave and go and get them. Once they learn that, they sleep!! Well, it is good to check up on everyone. I am not the best blog checker, but every once in a while I get a moment to "stalk" Our blog is private, but if you want an invite, scoot me an e-mail. mdbelnap1215@yahoo.com!
Having the husband get your baby before and after you feed her will save you. Also assign him to change her diaper when she is done feeding. Josh will do this especially when I am to work the next day.
I think I am also getting to the point where it is enough! I let him cry. It is the only way to do it. Baby wise was too harsh of a book for me. Oh have an extra pillow in hand to put over your own head when you hear them cry. It kind-of muffles the sound so you aren't completely awake. But that is the only way I could get him to quit waking up at 0100. Now we are trying to get him to quit waking up at 0400 or 0600. Soon enough I hope it will end.
So this is my opinion. I did Babywise, way strict Babywise for the first 3 months or so and he totally slept through the night. For six or so weeks Brody was doing 10-11 p.m. to 6,7,8, or even 9 a.m. all by himself. I got out of the routine of doing Babywise and now we're into waking up in the night again. For me, I never would allow Brody to sleep in our bed. In the 4 months that he's been alive twice he's come into our bed. And Blake brought him in both times. If you read the blog post I just did our Ped said I just have to let him cry it out. We did it last night, and he did a little better. I'm optimistic that in just a couple of night we can be back to a good pattern. Good luck!
Good Luck my friend. The only time Tay has shared our bed was this last trip up to Idaho and that night was a NIGHTMARE. Niether parent slept well. You DO Deserve to get to use that great crib and bedding. My best advice is decide to do it. . . and do it. Maybe wait until she is "old" enough for you to feel comfortable letting her Cry it out a bit. It's NEVER EASY to hear your child cry...like w/ Tay's naps he tried to give em' up but I knew he needed em' so I MADE myself be CONSISTANT w/ the routine and time and it took like one or two days of some cry time but he's a gem again. I WISH YOU LUCK.
I have the same issue with Merrick right now! I want his crib to be put to use but its so easy to have him sleep with us...especially when he wakes up in the middle of the night. you will have to let me know what works best!
I'm not too much help in this department. My little guy just turned 1 and still hasn't slept through the night, although he's been sleeping in his own crib since 5 months. We never actually co-slept, but kept him in a bassinett/pack and play by our bed for the 1st 4 months. It's an easy way to transition them to their crib because you can slowly move them closer to the door, then into the hall, and then into their room, and finally into their crib. Good luck, it's hard on you too when you are used to having your baby right there! Oh and I LOVE ths supernanny book, she has some great sleeping techniques in it.
Leighton is so darling! I love the striped dress and hat. Soo cute! It looks like you had a great Christmas. Going home, at least for some of your break, is always a good thing.
It looks like you've received tonz of good advice about the crib dilemma. Good luck with that. It was super hard for me. I just barely put mine in his crib last week. I cried. I know, Sooo pathetic, but it was hard for me. I just loved having him next to me. It is so peaceful having the two most important people right next to you to go to sleep! Good luck. You'll do great!
I am a babywise diehard fan so if you get the chance to read it... do! It's never too late. Everyone gave wonderful advice! I moved my one month old last night and it's hard but I'm sticking to my guns! Hope to hear good reports soon!!
Rach! I need an update. If you guys are going to insist on living clear the heck in St.George I need you to post some pictures of you guys and tell me how you are doing. Hope you all are doing great. We really need to plan a trip to see you guys!
Hey Rach! How's life? I just checked out your blog, & your lil girl is a total doll! :D I hope the whole sleeping thing is going better for you guys. It's hard not cave in & go get them in the night, but you'll be loving life lots more if u stick it out. What else have u guys been up to? It's been 4EVER since I've seen u last. Take care, & hope 2 hear from u soon. xoxo Kensie
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